If you have followed my podcast or blog, you know that I often talk about accountability partners. I believe they can be the determining factor in accomplishing goals and forming new habits. Making changes on our own is very difficult. Believe me, I have tried. Even with the best intentions, it’s hard to be that disciplined.
In my journey to get healthy, I’ve had a few different people I've used as accountability partners. I've hired a personal trainer at one time, my sister and I had a plan for a while, and I had a friend of mine who was going through the same thing, so we worked together on our journey to a healthier life. In my business, I've often had my mentor coach be my accountability partner. When you work as an entrepreneur, it’s almost critical at times to have some kind of accountability because it’s always easier to put things off in the future.
I have found in my own experience, and when working with clients, that there are three very important factors in picking out the right accountability partner.
1) Consistency - It is not going to do you any good if you don’t talk with your accountability partner on a regular basis. At the very least, check-in over the phone or in person on a weekly basis, preferably at the same time of day. I also encourage sending text messages throughout the week as these can be extremely motivating. (More on this under the challenge favor.) This is a scheduled appointment that you don’t want to miss where you share your experiences from the week, your successes, and your challenges. And you can use this time to set up new goals for the coming week.
2) Trust - You have to trust your accountability partner, like really trust them. There is no fibbing or exaggerating on your updates. To get the most out of this strategy, it is vital that you choose someone you know will not judge you. If you are feeling judged or this person somehow makes you feel bad, get a different partner. It will never work otherwise. Trust is so important!
3) Challenge - Get uncomfortable. If you want different results, you have to do something different. Just planning and thinking about change is not good enough, you have to take action. One of the things I loved about my personal trainer is he would, at random times throughout the week, ask me what I had eaten that day. Believe me when this happens enough times, you really stop before reaching for the doughnut because you don’t want THAT text message to come through that day. Make sure the person you choose is not too easy on you. And yes, this can happen without judgment. A little challenge now and then is a good thing.
One of the many benefits of having an ADHD Coach is you have a built-in accountability partner. You can count on the fact that I will check in on your progress and you can be honest with me because I hold no judgment. My only intention is help you get closer to your goals. And yes, you will be challenged, and it may be a bit uncomfortable at first, but that is ok, change often is.
Regardless of whom you choose as your accountability partner, it’s a great feeling to know you are not in this journey alone. No matter if you're making large or small changes in your life, change is hard and having a partner to get through those growing pains can make the difference between staying where you are or moving forward to where you want to be.
Until Next Time,