Most of my clients who have ADHD have a love/hate relationship when it comes to routines and having structure in their life. They know it’s probably in their best interest; however, there’s this little voice in their head saying they don’t want to do it!
Even with the little voice, most people try and do their best to find routines that will better serve them, but it becomes discouraging when you're motivated and excited about something only to see it fade away after a few days, or weeks, if you’re lucky.
Most people will either blame themselves, the routine, or both. Negative conversations start playing out in their mind, like, “I never finish anything I start,” "I can’t do this," or "I will never be able to learn this.” These conversations are based on what I call "limiting beliefs" and they may be what’s stopping your new routine from becoming a habit.
Limiting beliefs keep us stuck.
They give us permission to give up when we try something different or shift our thoughts from what's possible to what’s impossible. If you don’t believe you can do something, then you're probably right, you can't do it. However, if you believe you can, than you are also right, you can do it.
In coaching, one of the things I often do with clients is first identify the challenge, and then ask questions around how they feel about it. I listen for limiting beliefs and then challenge them on those beliefs.
How is this belief serving you?
What other options do you have?
What if it is was possible?
My challenge for you is to look at a routine that you are struggling with right now and ask yourself, "What do I believe to be true in this situation? What are my limiting beliefs? What if it was possible to master this routine? What do I need to in order to make this happen?"
Once you can identify these limiting beliefs, it's easier to push them aside, to believe something more self-serving. You will be well on your way to making this new routine a habit!
Until Next Time,