How To Stay Positive When Life Is Unfair

You can't change what happens to you but you can choose how you respond!

My husband and I were married for one month when he received his diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis (MS). You can imagine receiving this news was not only heartbreaking, but life changing. We’ve been married now for many years and I have witnessed my husband experience some really low days. However, even through the worst of it, I am constantly amazed by his positive spirit. 

I bring this up because in our show this week, we talk about ways to create more positive energy in our lives. My co-host, Pete Wright knows my husband and the topic naturally came up this week how Brad has dealt with his chronic illness throughout the years.

Because my husband is definitely one of the most positive people I know, I thought I would ask him a few questions on how he remains that way and here are his insights:

Practice Gratitude

This was his first response. He is very grateful for his life and focuses on what he can do and not what he can’t do. He may not be able to run, but he can still walk. When he participates in activities, he does not take them for granted because he doesn’t know what the future holds. He is very grateful for where he is right now. 

Have a Sense of Humor

My husband is a funny guy. And even as I talked with him about this, he cracked jokes about how good looking he is and, because of that, all is well with the world! But seriously, his sense of humor has gotten him through some dark times. He doesn’t take anything too seriously, which serves him and those around him well. It’s much easier to stay positive if you take a lighter approach. 

Live in the Moment

My husband was influenced by something his uncle said to him long ago. His uncle asked him if we had made it to the beach one weekend and Brad explained we got too busy and didn’t make it.

His uncle said, "Oh that’s to bad because you missed the most beautiful sunset. You really should make time to do that, don’t let the craziness of life get in your way."

His uncle died from cancer soon after this conversation. It was a conversation my husband will never forget. 

You Choose

My husband believes that perception is your reality. He chooses every day to have a great day. He shares this choice with me and my children. Every morning I hear him singing and the positive energy spreads, even when my son and I aren’t exactly morning people. He makes us laugh and lightens the mood for sure, reminding us to choose happiness.

Whether you are dealing with a chronic illness, ADHD, or something else in your life, I hope you find something here that inspires you to look at the glass half-full rather than half-empty.

I have witnessed firsthand that perception is everything when it comes to living your best life.

Thank you for your time and attention..

Take Care,

Nikki