What if You Don't Have a Vision?

All this week, we are beginning to talk about self-care and ADHD. I mentioned it starts with creating a vision and taking some time to reflect on what self-care really looks like to you. Back in December, Pete and I talked about vision, how to get started, and how to make time for our vision.

I received a question from a listener and I feel the need to address it because my theory is, if one person actually takes the time to write in and ask the question, there are several others out there who have the same question. I hope this helps direct you a bit more on creating that vision. 

From the listener:

Earlier today I listened to podcast #233, Creating a Vision, for the second time hoping to find something that I missed the first time.

The problem that I am having is even having a vision. I have absolutely no clue where I would like to be in six months, or next year, much less later.

Can you give me some sort of pointers on where I can get started on a vision for myself?

My Reply: 

Thank you for your email and for being a listener of the show! Pete and I always love receiving questions and feedback. Vision is a tricky thing, especially if you're getting too caught up in the outcome. Yes, it’s important to know where you're going, but when you are stuck on what that even looks like, I suggest pulling back away from the outcome of 6 months to a year, and first start with the details of the kind of change you are looking for.

What in your life do you want to change right now? Pick one thing and start to focus on why that change matters to you. What’s your motivation? What’s happening now that needs to be different? What’s getting in your way? Think and reflect about the change you are looking for. I suggest sitting with it for a while and being ok with not knowing the answers right away. I believe they will come if you're paying attention. 

I want to emphasize, just picking one area in your life right now to focus on, not the whole picture. Maybe it’s your career, your personal health, relationships, etc. Breaking it down can feel less overwhelming and help you focus on what matters.

For some of you, the vision will be very clear and you won’t need long to reflect on it. For others, it takes longer to get to that place and I believe that is ok. We get to where we need to be at our own pace. It’s not a race. Life-long change doesn’t happen overnight. Be patient, listen, and pay attention. The answers will come. 

Until Next Time,

Nikki