Explanation vs. Excuse
Do you know the difference between an explanation and an excuse?
We might think we know the difference, but, it turns out, the lines between the two can get a bit blurry.
What do they mean?
Before we figure out how these two things are different, let's start with exploring the standard definitions for each word:
Explanation: a statement made to clarify something and make it understandable.
Now, let's define excuse:
Excuse: to provide reasons for actions, especially when other people disapprove of these actions.
It sounds like giving an explanation can be used to teach or educate when someone doesn't understand.
On the other hand, using an excuse may give a reason for "why," but does not seem to take it any further than that.
Why does it matter?
When you live with ADHD, things may not always go the way you planned. You may be running late, forget an appointment, or get distracted at an important moment.
Unfortunately, sometimes these things can impact the people around you.
You may feel the need to teach those around you about the impact your ADHD can have on your day-to-day life. This is an explanation. It does not remove the blame if you made a mistake, but it can help others understand why things like this might happen.
On the other hand, an excuse can be used to tell others you have ADHD, therefore you should not be blamed or held accountable for your actions.
Which of those two sound better: an explanation or an excuse?
While you may have ADHD, it does not define you. You are still capable of doing anything you put your mind to—being on time, sticking to a schedule, staying focused when it counts—all these things are possible when you begin implementing strategies that work with you and your ADHD.
When you give an excuse, instead of acknowledging a mistake with an explanation, whether you say it out loud or not, you are telling the other person that because you have ADHD, you are incapable of change and you should not be held to the same standards or responsibilities of those people who do not have ADHD.
This sort of response will usually not go over well with others.
So, the next time you have the chance, give an explanation for the situation and learn how to grow from the experience.
Thank you for your time and attention,
Nikki
