Are you focusing on the glass being half empty or half full?
Have you ever been around someone who is negative all of the time? It brings you down, you could walk into a conversation in the best mood and then after spending a couple of minutes with this person, you're mad at the world!
On the flip side of that, think about the positive people in your life. They make you smile just thinking about them. They always see the possibilities and don't dwell on the negatives. They just have a positive vibe about them.
Energy is contagious. Whether it's positive or negative, it can have a major impact on you.
Sometimes our worst enemy is ourselves... A roadblock comes our way and the first reaction is to play the old tape in our mind about not being good enough. This is too hard. I can't do this. I've never been able to do this before. These thoughts creep in so easily. However, they never help us move forward.
If we focus on the negative, then negative energy is what we get. If we focus on the positive, then positive energy is what we get... Which would you rather have?
Because you may or may not already know this... but you do have a choice!
Here are three tips to staying positive:
Gratitude - A wise friend told me once that your brain is not capable of thinking positive and negative at the same time, so as soon as your thoughts start to go down that slippery path, stop, and think about what you are grateful for. Of course we are grateful for our families and loved ones, but don't forget about the smallest details of our lives - they matter just as much! Noticing and being mindful of all of the gifts that surround us. I remember taking my son to school one morning and he commented on how "cool" the sunrise looked behind the mountains and the color of the sky. I was so proud of him for noticing. He was paying attention to the good around him. Just imagine how your day would be different if you paid attention to the positive rather than everything that was going wrong.
Set the Intention - I really believe we can choose to be happy. We can choose to be positive. But for someone like me who lives with anxiety everyday, this is not always easy. It takes great effort. Everyday I set the intention to have a great day. Everyday, I choose to live in gratitude. With intention comes responsibly. I can't control what happens but I can always control how I react. I always have a choice. I've learned to deliberately surround myself with positive energy. If I need to get out of a funk - I will call my friend, who always makes me laugh or I will call my sister, who is always the voice of reason. I will take my dog on a walk because he always welcomes me with such enthusiasm and joy. I'll listen to my favorite music or play with my kids. I find the things that bring me peace and joy and focus my energy on those things.
Trust Yourself - I remember learning a long time ago that having faith is believing in something you can't see but you know to be true. Trusting yourself and having faith that everything is going to be ok can go a long way when you are focusing too much on the negative. Be aware of what's happening and catch yourself. Think of your possibilities and have the confidence in yourself to know you can do and be anything you want to be. Trust your intuition and if something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Along with trusting yourself, don't forget to believe. Change your old belief of I can't to I can. Persevere. This is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Until next time..