"The grass is always greener on the other side.”
We know this isn’t true. Logically we know it’s probably not a good idea to compare ourselves to others, but it’s hard not to when we see someone have something we wished we had or someone is happy when we feel sad.
Social media like Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest do not help us fight this battle, they make it worse! I wish I could go on great vacations all the time and make elaborate front porch decorations, but really, who has time for that?
Comparing ourselves to others is toxic for so many reasons, but the one that's most damaging is what it does to our self-worth. We feel "less than" when we compare, we feel like we are not good enough and that somehow we need to do better. This is a terrible place to be in. One that leads to depression and anxiety.
Comparing ourselves means we are judging. We are judging the people we are looking at and we are judging ourselves. Judgement is not a healthy frame of mind. We really don’t know what others are going through or what’s happening in their world.
Remember the other saying, "Don’t judge a book by its cover." We all have stories that make us who we are and put us where we are in life, so let it go. Judging ourselves is also not exactly non-objective because we are our own worst critics! It's not healthy or productive to judge yourself.
“To be content doesn’t mean you don’t desire more, it means your thankful for what you have and patient for what’s to come.” - Tony Gaskins
Being content and accepting what is helps us focus on gratitude when we start going down that comparison road. Gratitude takes us back to a positive mindset and reminds us of the blessings we have. It’s ok to work hard and focus on the things that you need or want in your life, but where you are right now is great too!
Acceptance and coming from a place of love is so much better than coming from a place of judgement.
Until Next Time,