Your Best Is Yet to Come
What would change if you treated “getting older” and the inevitable passing of time as a chance to redesign your life, instead of wishing things could be the way they “used to be”?
One of the only things in this life we can count on is aging. It's inevitable-whether we like it or not. Another thing that tends to come with aging? Change.
Just like the changing of the weather through the different seasons, we often experience many different changes as we grow and age through the seasons life. Change can be hard; it can be scary. But, change doesn't have to be a bad thing-it all depends on your perspective.
Sage wisdom from an expert
Recently, on an episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Pete and I welcomed Dr. Kathleen Nadeau to the show to talk about ADHD, aging, and how we can reframe change and our circumstances in a positive way.
According to Dr. Nadeau, reframing-changing the story you tell about your capabilities and planting yourself in the right environment-can transform how older adults navigate retirement, cognitive shifts, and identity.
Below, I have provided some of the other great discussion points from that conversation with Dr. Nadeau.
Why reframing matters for ADHD and aging
Reframing moves the focus from "I used to..." narratives that convey loss, to "What scaffolding do I need now?"
It recognizes ADHD as a brain style, not just a deficit, and invites practical changes rather than self-blame.
For older adults and those approaching retirement, a fresh mindset, combined with new supports, can unlock growth and meaning in new ways you never expected.
Quick, science-backed reasons to reframe
Lifestyle choices (sleep, exercise, nutrition, social connection) directly affect the brain and cognitive decline.
Neuroplasticity means the brain can form new connections at any age; late-life change is possible.
Practical reframing steps you can use today
Name the change: Replace "I used to.." with "I'm exploring how to..." to reduce grief and open curiosity.
Build fresh scaffolds: Use coaching, peer groups, technology (timers, reminders, smartwatches), and routines.
Prioritize brain health: Aim for restorative sleep, daily movement, balanced meals, and regular social contact.
Ways to take action right now
Try 5-10 minutes of vigorous exercise before starting a focused task.
Swap one "I used to..." thought for "I'm exploring..." each morning.
Track sleep and add one consistent sleep-hygiene habit tonight.
Reframing is a practical, evidence-informed strategy for people with ADHD as they age.
When you change the story and setting, older adults can replace loss-centric thinking with creative problem solving and renewed purpose.
Remember, aging doesn't erase who you are; it just invites new scaffolding.
Thank you for your time and attention,
-Nikki