Setting Realistic Expectations in the New Year
The ball drops, the clock strikes midnight, and suddenly we’re all supposed to become “new” people because we’ve entered a new year?
With all the marketing that usually comes out at the start of a new year, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by the pressure to make huge changes and set resolutions that are far too out of reach.
That pressure can be a lot for anyone—especially for folks living with ADHD—and it often leads to feelings of inadequacy and exhaustion.
Getting Real in the New Year
In a recent episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Pete Wright and I discussed how important it is to set realistic expectations—especially when it comes to setting goals in the new year.
Don’t forget that many of us have just come through a long, and often exhausting holiday season. That means you’re probably starting the new year at a bit of a deficit in the energy and motivation department. Trying to completely overhaul your life when you’re depleted is probably not going to go as well as you would like.
Recover Before Makeover
If you’re looking to make some changes at the start of a new year, you will find the whole process much more enjoyable if you give yourself some much-needed recovery time, first.
It’s important to remember that recovery takes time, especially after a busy holiday season. Instead of plunging head first into a new year, I highly recommend holding space and time to reflect on what you’ve already accomplished.
One Step At A Time
Once you’ve allowed yourself the recovery time you need, I would suggest picking one new or improved anchor routine that you can commit to, rather than overhauling your entire life. Choosing just one thing to focus on will allow for gradual progress without the self-imposed pressure of those pesky 'shoulds'.
Remember: you’re not behind—you’re simply in a recovery phase.
As you reflect on your own, personal expectations for the new year, I want to encourage you to embrace a compassionate outlook.
Acknowledge your feelings—without judgment—and allow yourself the grace to move at your own pace.
This year, let’s celebrate small wins and focus on our journey rather than perfection. Cheers to realistic goals and being kind to ourselves! 🎉
Thank you for your time and attention,
Nikki
Could you use a little extra help in the ‘compassion for yourself’ department? Check out this FREE download I created for a recent episode of The ADHD Podcast!